Chapter 15: “I’m Trying”

[TIMELINE: DECEMBER 2020–FEBRUARY 2021] The rest of December was no better. Peggy’s confusion really started to get ahold of her. Conversations like this were typical: Me: Where were you when you lost your mask? Peggy: I was on my way up in the air. Me:  What do you mean? Peggy: I didn’t mean that. I … Read more

Chapter 14: Where’s My Foot?

[TIMELINE: SEPTEMBER–DECEMBER 2020] During our RV-powered visit to Peggy’s assisted living facility in August, my partner Jon and I were allowed to meet with her outside in the front courtyard, although we had to sit six feet away from her and everyone had to wear masks. Not ideal, but much better than no visit at … Read more

Chapter 13: Creative Workarounds

[TIMELINE: MAY–AUGUST 2020] To my immense relief, Peggy did well during the Covid lockdown. Staff at her facility were ever present, so she felt looked after and safe. The medical technicians took the temperatures of each resident every day, and everyone was told to wear a mask. My sister had always been a rule-follower. If … Read more

Chapter 12: Life in Lockdown

[TIMELINE: FEBRUARY–APRIL 2020] The previous couple of months had brought much discussion about Covid to our family. But at the time, we still didn’t know a lot about it. Did it involve a lab leak in China, or a wet market? Was it something we had to really worry about, or plan around? It wasn’t … Read more

Chapter 11: Can’t Go Home Again

[TIMELINE: JANUARY 2020] January 2020 was shaping up to be a busy month for me. On top of being there for Peggy as her Alzheimer’s progressed (and the constant problem-solving it always entailed), I felt it was time for me to sign up for some classes towards my continuing legal education. I wanted to be … Read more

Chapter 10: A Happy Christmas

[TIMELINE: NOVEMBER–DECEMBER 2019] In November, less than a month after we returned from Italy and Sicily, our family was plunged back into the unpredictable world of endless problem solving. The first issue that popped up was my sister’s growing frustration that she was not an independent person anymore. Peggy’s assisted living facility has a policy … Read more

Chapter 9: Abroad, Just in Time

[TIMELINE: SEPTEMBER–OCTOBER 2019] By the time late September rolled around, we were ready to attempt the impossible—Peggy’s bucket-list tour of Italy and Sicily. Here are the highlights, and a few lowlights. [For all of the planning and research we did to make this trip happen, please see my travel logistics page.] Peggy really wanted to … Read more

Chapter 8: Living, Assisted

[TIMELINE: AUGUST–SEPTEMBER 2019] As my sister adapted to life in her new assisted living apartment, we were happy to observe in action a few of the different amenities the facility had to offer, such as the main dining room. That set-up worked out very well for Peggy. Meals were served three times a day with … Read more

Chapter 7: The Big Move

[TIMELINE: JULY–AUGUST 2019] In July, we learned that a spot had finally opened up for Peggy at our assisted living facility of choice, and we scheduled a move-in date of August 16, 2019. I hired a company, Caring Transitions, to help us set everything up. They were fantastic. We packed up her belongings in the … Read more